Are you struggling with disintegration as the world celebrates the start of the new year? Well, step away from regret and read this to take a break!
Being separated from someone you love is never easy and can affect your emotional and mental health. Expenses are even harder when you see couples around you preparing for New Year’s celebrations together. Because of your lost love, you may feel like you want to vomit at the thought of couples kissing at midnight. Well, some might call it dramatic, right? But only you know how it feels and you are not alone.
The thought may creep in that you would celebrate New Year’s Eve yourself or have no more than a reason to celebrate. Looking at a couple holding hands can arouse a feeling of sadness and FOMO (fear of delay), which is completely justified. This is because there is an outpouring of love all around you. People try to pamper each other with flowers, chocolate, gifts or candlelight dinners – and if you’re not part of a tribe, it’s natural to feel let go.
Yes, it’s time to address the proverbial elephant in the room: what if you’re dealing with a broken heart when the new year 2022 comes. Well, guess what? You don’t have to feel sorry for yourself. You better read this because you’re not the only one!
According to a study she published US National Library of Medicine, the experience of parting is associated with an increase in mental distress and a decline in life satisfaction.
In the 20-month study period, 473 individuals out of 1295 participants experienced one or more breakups. So, you are not alone!
Hirak Patel, counseling psychologist, Fortis Hospital, Mulund, Mumbai, spoke to HealthShots about the psychological stress an individual can experience when experiencing cardiac evil.
“Experiencing disintegration and going through a phase becomes difficult and challenges an individual to progress. It comes with a lot of changes within a person, their attitude, thoughts, emotions and other areas of their lives. ”She says.
On how you can overcome grief at a breakup, Patel says, “Slow down, you don’t have to rush into things right away and you don’t have to make everything happen right away. Allow yourself some time, practice self-sufficiency, and focus on your growth. Take one thing at a time, accept and acknowledge the situation to go ahead and explore other things. “
Here are 4 ways to make yourself feel a little better:
1. Consider your feelings
It’s hard to deal with a broken heart, especially when the world is celebrating the New Year. Well, you might want to shut yourself in a room, turn on sad music, and cry. We know it’s hard, but don’t suppress your feelings. Give yourself the freedom to really feel your emotions. If you want to cry, don’t stop to cry out loud. It’s natural to feel awful during the holiday season when you’re faced with a broken heart, but tell yourself it’s okay. Cry, scream, or hit the pillow, but let go of negative emotions. So your heart will be fruitful again for the seed of love!
2. Kiss each other
If you are someone who has always followed the demands of others according to your personal needs, we hear from you! In doing so, you should try to become more accepting, loving, and kind to yourself. Every time you walk past the mirror, look at yourself and talk to the parts of your body that you like and even those that you don’t like. Self-affirmation has a huge impact on changing your mood. Give yourself a smile and be grateful for what you are as a whole. In this new year, practice and preach love for yourself as a habit. Once you acknowledge the beauty that lurks within you, it becomes to be sexy and brilliant second nature!
3. Don’t jump on the dating train right away
Well, FOMO of joint enjoyment in the new year is definitely haunting you. It’s okay to feel a little empty and behave vulnerable. Don’t try to fill a gap your ex-lover has left with someone else, and do so in a hurry. Indulge in emotional waves and let yourself float. One day you will learn to swim through when you don’t feel gloomy. Avoid quickly installing a dating app on your phone and scrolling left and right inconsistently. It will be completely unfair for the other person because they may not be meeting you to hear the story of the breakup, but to actually meet!
4. Focus on your growth
They say happiness is the best revenge. And maybe in this case it is true. Try to become a better version of yourself. If you’re not keen on New Year’s vows, try cultivating good habits for a perfected self. Go on those vacations you’ve always wanted to do, learn dance forms, or complete this half-read book. It’s not easy to pick yourself up and start exercising, especially when you’re feeling bad. But this is the secret pill that will make you feel so much better! And who knows, there you meet someone interesting and cupid overturns you again!
“Going forward doesn’t mean you ignore the situation. Focus on yourself on what needs to be done next, and be compassionate to yourself. It is imperative to understand that the same experience may not be repeated. Indulge in the things that make you feel better, ”suggests Patel.
Finding love is an important decision. It’s not just about exposing yourself, which requires a lot of courage, but also about meeting new people with whom you might be able to share long-term relationships. And trust us, you did well! Be open to accepting love because it will accompany you in a better way again.
We wish you a year that will give you a reason to heartbeat and you will achieve peace in your own well-being!